The Importance of Good Health in the Second Innings

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Good health is the greatest blessing as we grow older. It keeps us away from illness, fills us with energy, and gives us the confidence to live independently. We can truly enjoy our second innings only when both our body and mind continue to support us.

Every individual is different. Our age, body, lifestyle, and health conditions are unique. Therefore, in this phase of life, we should live according to our own circumstances instead of trying to imitate others. What works well for a friend may not necessarily be right for us. The key is to understand our own body’s needs and shape our lifestyle accordingly.

Many of the health problems we face today have their roots in habits developed during our younger years—irregular routines, unhealthy eating, stress, lack of exercise, and, in some cases, addictions such as tobacco or pan masala. As these habits catch up with us, we often wish we had taken better care of ourselves earlier.

But we cannot turn the clock back. There is little value in regretting the past. What matters is what we choose to do today. A good decision taken now can make the coming years healthier and happier.

I have seen some of my friends consume pan masala for decades. Even after health problems have appeared, they find it extremely difficult to quit. Addiction has such a strong hold that many manage to reduce the habit but cannot give it up completely. The earlier we adopt healthy habits, the greater the rewards in later life.

The encouraging news is that even in our senior years, much remains within our control. A balanced diet, regular exercise, and a disciplined daily routine can significantly reduce the risk of joint pain, weakness, and many chronic illnesses. Good health depends not only on medicines but also on the choices we make every single day.

Here are a few simple habits worth adopting:

1. Eat a balanced and nutritious diet
2. Stay physically active
3. Take care of your mental and emotional well-being
4. Make regular health check-ups a habit

Eat a balanced and nutritious diet

As we age, our digestive system slows down. Choose foods that are easy to digest yet rich in nutrients. Include plenty of green vegetables, seasonal fruits, whole grains, and adequate protein in your meals. Pulses, sprouts, low-fat dairy products, calcium, and Vitamin D help maintain healthy bones and muscles.

Stay physically active

An active lifestyle is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. Health experts recommend at least 150 minutes of moderate physical activity each week, such as brisk walking, swimming, or cycling. Light strength and balance exercises are equally important as they help prevent falls and keep bones and muscles strong.

Take care of your mental and emotional well-being

A healthy mind is as important as a healthy body. Reading, solving puzzles or Sudoku, learning something new, or pursuing a hobby keeps the brain active. Staying connected with family, friends, and the community reduces loneliness and stress. Equally important is getting seven to nine hours of quality sleep every night.

Make regular health check-ups a habit

Many serious illnesses develop silently. Regular medical check-ups help detect problems early, when treatment is most effective. Keep your blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, and other health parameters under regular review.

Remember, retirement and ageing are not the real challenges. Neglecting our health is. If our body remains healthy, there is no age limit for dreaming, learning, contributing to society, and enjoying life to the fullest.

The strongest foundation for a meaningful, active, and joyful second innings is good health. Make it your priority. It is the greatest investment you can make—not only for yourself but also for your family’s happiness and your own independence.

Elders – Let Go of Ego, Embrace Happiness

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After retirement, many seniors choose to remain active by joining social organizations, clubs, resident welfare associations, religious groups, or community forums. This is a wonderful way to stay engaged, meet new people, and continue contributing to society. Such involvement gives life a renewed sense of purpose.

Most of these organizations hold annual elections, appoint new office bearers, and make important decisions. Naturally, we participate enthusiastically, support candidates we believe in, and hope that decisions will reflect our views. However, this is precisely where we need to exercise caution. We should never become so emotionally invested that the outcome of an election or a committee decision begins to affect our peace of mind.

As we grow older, our greatest assets are good health and a cheerful mind. If the result of an election, a disagreement in a committee, or someone’s behavior keeps us upset, angry, or depressed for days, we should pause and ask ourselves a simple question: Is this issue really worth sacrificing my happiness for?

Life teaches us an important lesson — everything will not always happen according to our wishes. Not everyone will agree with us. Our preferred candidate may not always win, and our opinion may not always prevail. That is the natural course of life. True maturity lies in accepting differences with grace.

One of the greatest secrets to happiness in later life is letting go of ego and unnecessary expectations. Ego is an invisible burden that quietly steals our peace. The moment we begin to think, “I am always right,” “My opinion must prevail,” or “Nothing can happen without me,” stress becomes inevitable. On the other hand, when we express our views honestly and then gracefully accept the outcome, our mind becomes lighter and happier.

This principle applies not only to social organizations but also to our families. Differences of opinion are natural. Our children may make choices we do not fully understand. The younger generation often thinks differently, and sometimes we feel that our advice is no longer valued. If we turn every disagreement into an issue of self-respect, relationships begin to suffer. But if we learn to listen, bend a little, and smile instead of reacting to every situation, love and harmony continue to flourish.

Forgiveness is another expression of letting go of ego. Holding on to old hurts, carrying resentment for years, or repeatedly revisiting painful memories harms no one more than ourselves. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting what happened; it simply means freeing ourselves from the emotional burden. A light heart is essential for a joyful life.

There is another habit that deserves our attention — reducing expectations. More often than not, it is our expectations, rather than our circumstances, that make us unhappy. We expect people to appreciate us, seek our advice, invite us to every gathering, or acknowledge our contributions. When these expectations are not met, disappointment follows. But when we contribute without expecting anything in return, even a small gesture of appreciation brings immense joy.

The second innings of life is not about competition; it is about contribution. It is not the time to prove ourselves but to enrich ourselves. Our goal should no longer be to win every argument but to enjoy every day with a smile.

Letting go of ego does not mean compromising our dignity. It simply means valuing our inner peace more than any disagreement. We should certainly express our views whenever necessary, but if the final decision goes against us, we should learn to accept it gracefully. That is the hallmark of wisdom.

In the second innings of life, the greatest achievement is not a position, an award, or a victory. It is peace of mind. Those who lighten the burden of ego, reduce their expectations, and learn to live in the present discover that every day becomes a celebration.

Let us make a simple resolution: we may not win every argument, but we will never lose our smile. After all, staying happy is life’s greatest success.

इस लेख को व अन्य प्रकाशित सभी लेखों को हिन्दी में हमारी वेबसाइट पर पढ़ सकते हैं.
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Digital India Needs a Human Touch for Senior Citizens

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India is rapidly embracing digital technology. Whether it is paying electricity or water bills, banking, pension services, KYC verification, booking tickets, hospital registration, accessing government schemes or completing official authentication, almost every essential service is now available through mobile apps or online platforms. This transformation is both necessary and welcome, bringing greater transparency, speed and convenience.

Yet, amid this digital revolution, an important question deserves our attention: Have we adequately considered the needs of senior citizens who are 75 years of age and above?

Their numbers may not be very large today, but with increasing life expectancy, this age group is steadily growing. Many of them are educated, use smartphones, exchange messages on WhatsApp and watch videos on YouTube. However, navigating different apps, handling one-time passwords (OTPs), passwords, updates and multiple verification steps is often far more challenging than it appears.

Here lies an important distinction: digital literacy is not the same as digital independence. A senior citizen may know how to use a smartphone, but that does not necessarily mean he or she can independently complete every digital process.

In many households, it has become common for senior citizens to depend on their children, grandchildren or even neighbours whenever they need to complete an online government procedure, banking transaction or digital verification. Those who live alone often feel helpless. At times, essential work is delayed simply because no one is available to assist them.

A few days ago, I visited a camp organised for SIR authentication. An elderly gentleman, around 80 years old, was visibly confused by the process. The Booth Level Officer (BLO) patiently explained every step, but eventually advised him to go home and complete the procedure with the help of a family member. This was not an isolated incident. It reflects a reality experienced by thousands of senior citizens across the country.

The issue is not that India is becoming digital. The real issue is that in many situations, the digital route has become the only route. Once all alternatives disappear, convenience for some becomes a barrier for others.

If there is no alternative for paying utility bills, completing KYC formalities, pension verification or accessing other essential public services, those who have spent a lifetime contributing to society are placed at an unnecessary disadvantage.

The Government’s objective of reducing corruption, increasing transparency and improving service delivery is entirely commendable. However, it is equally important to ensure that these systems remain inclusive and responsive to the needs of elderly citizens.

A few practical measures can make a significant difference:

• Establish Senior Citizen Assistance Counters in all government offices.
• Wherever possible, provide an offline option alongside digital services.
• Organise regular digital assistance camps in neighbourhoods and villages.
• Create trained volunteer or authorised assistance networks that can help seniors complete essential digital tasks at home when required.
• Introduce a Senior Citizen Mode in government apps and websites with larger fonts, simpler language and fewer procedural steps.

This need is not confined to government services alone. Hospitals, banks, insurance companies, gas agencies, telecom providers and many other private institutions are also moving rapidly towards fully digital systems. If they too provide assisted or alternative service options for senior citizens, millions will be able to access essential services with confidence and dignity. This is not a question of their capability; it is a question of how thoughtfully our systems are designed.

We should remember that the success of any modern system is measured not only by its technological efficiency but also by how accessible it is to those who need the greatest support. Senior citizens do not seek special privileges. They seek dignity, accessibility and equal opportunity.

We are building a Digital India that is technologically strong. It is equally important that it never loses its human touch. Technology should empower people, not make them dependent on others for everyday necessities.

The true success of Digital India will not be measured only by advanced technology, but by how easily a 75-year-old citizen can access essential services without feeling helpless. Development becomes meaningful only when it carries along those with the greatest experience of life.

आप में से बहुतों ने मेरी पुस्तक मंगाई है लेकिन उसमें केवल साठ चिन्हित लेख प्रकाशित किए गए हैं। नए लेखों को पढ़ने के लिए वेबसाइट पर आए या फिर इसे यहां पढ़ें।

Simple Joys Never Grow Old

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There was a time when happiness did not require elaborate planning. It came naturally, quietly, and often unexpectedly.

The arrival of the summer holidays was enough to fill us with excitement. Schools would close, and the annual family trip would begin. For many of us, the destination was not a hill station or a beach resort. It was our nanihal, a bhua’s home, a pilgrimage town, or our ancestral hometown. The destination mattered less than the journey itself.

Today’s vacations often begin months in advance. We compare destinations, study hotel reviews, book flights, prepare detailed itineraries, and even ask Artificial Intelligence to help us choose the “best” option. Friends who have already visited become our travel consultants.

There is nothing wrong with this. In fact, technology has made travel easier than ever before. Yet somewhere along the way, many of us have started believing that happiness lies only at the destination.

In those days, the journey itself was the holiday.

Train travel was the heart of every vacation. Reservations were made weeks in advance. Sometimes we even purchased circular railway tickets, which allowed us to visit several places economically, provided we did not pass through the same station twice.

In 1975, along with two other couples, we travelled for exactly one month. We went down the east coast to Kanyakumari, returned through the west coast via Bombay (now Mumbai), and finally reached our hometown, Ranchi. The circular railway ticket for the entire month cost just ₹165 per person.

We remember singing Antakshari with fellow passengers who had been strangers only a few hours earlier. We remember opening our tiffin boxes and sharing homemade food with people from different parts of the country. We remember making new friends before the train reached the next major station. We remember conversations that lasted longer than the journey itself.

There were no mobile phones to keep everyone occupied. No one sat staring at a screen. We looked out of the window, watched rivers, fields and villages pass by, exchanged stories, laughed together and enjoyed every passing moment.

Life, too, followed a similar rhythm. We owned fewer things, but we seemed to own more time for one another.

Even our celebrations had a different flavour. Weddings were not just about attending a ceremony; they were about spending time together. Most guests stayed together. From morning till night, there was laughter, endless cups of tea, conversations about childhood memories, family stories, and relatives whom we had not met for years. We often recalled the last wedding where we had all gathered and promised to meet again soon.

Today, most weddings are organised in hotels and resorts, offering every possible comfort. Yet, quite often, guests retire to their individual rooms between functions and meet only during meals or the scheduled ceremonies. Everything is efficient, but there is often less time for those unplanned conversations that strengthened family bonds and created memories that lasted a lifetime.

Even our evenings were different. There was no urgency to rush indoors. Children played until dusk while elders sat outside their homes or on the terrace, discussing everything from cricket scores to national events. Nobody looked at a watch every few minutes or wondered who had sent the latest message. Time moved more slowly because relationships moved more deeply.

Perhaps that is what made those moments so memorable.

As senior citizens, we often recall those days with affection. But this article is not an invitation to live in the past. It is a reminder that many of those simple joys are still within our reach.

We may not travel by train for a month, but we can still take a leisurely journey instead of always rushing. We can still carry homemade food, strike up a conversation with a fellow traveller, spend an evening with friends without checking our phones every few minutes, or simply watch a sunset without feeling the need to photograph it.

Technology is a wonderful servant but a poor master. Let us use it to enrich our lives, not to replace real experiences.

The Never Say Retired mission is not about going back in time. It is about carrying forward the timeless values that made life meaningful—human connection, simplicity, gratitude and togetherness. These do not belong to any generation. They belong to every generation.

The good news is that simplicity never goes out of fashion. We can rediscover it at any age. And when we do, we often realise that some of life’s greatest pleasures have been waiting quietly beside us all along.

We remember these moments not to live in yesterday, but to bring yesterday’s simplicity into today’s life. We cannot turn the clock back, but we can certainly slow it down. And perhaps that is the greatest gift we can give ourselves in our second innings. Simple joys never grow old.

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As Life Expectancy Increases, Let Us Keep It Healthy Too

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On one hand, we feel happy that our average lifespan is increasing. On the other hand, it is rare to find a family where no one is unwell. In almost every household, at least one member—especially a senior citizen—frequently needs to visit a doctor or hospital. Expensive medicines, doctors’ fees, and hospitalization costs, even with medical insurance, place a heavy burden on household budgets.

In 1947, when India gained independence, the average life expectancy of Indians was only 32 years. Today’s youth may find it hard to believe. However, according to available data from 2020, this has increased to 67.2 years. The question is—while our lifespan is increasing, how much attention are we giving to keeping these added years healthy? This is what is referred to as “healthy ageing.”

A study conducted jointly by the Government of India and the WHO Country Office for India on people aged 60 years and above revealed that conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, anemia, arthritis, falls and fractures, gastrointestinal issues, asthma, and others are quite common among the elderly. Recognizing the need for accessible healthcare for senior citizens, the Government of India has initiated several programs, including the National Programme for Health Care of the Elderly (NPHCE) and integrated initiatives like Ayushman Bharat. These programs aim to provide healthcare services to senior citizens (aged 60 and above) across primary, secondary, and tertiary levels, and to further increase life expectancy.

Recently, under the chairmanship of Prime Minister Shri Narendra Modi, the Union Cabinet approved health coverage for all senior citizens aged 70 years and above under the Ayushman Bharat Pradhan Mantri Jan Arogya Yojana (AB PM-JAY), irrespective of income. The scheme aims to benefit approximately 4.5 crore families, covering around 6 crore senior citizens, by providing free health insurance coverage of up to ₹5 lakh per family annually. With this approval, all senior citizens aged 70 and above, regardless of their socio-economic status, will be eligible for the scheme. They will be issued a unique AB PM-JAY card. Those already covered under the scheme will receive an additional top-up cover of ₹5 lakh per year, while others will receive coverage of up to ₹5 lakh per family annually.

While such schemes will certainly provide significant benefits, our primary goal should be to minimize illness itself. There are many reasons why diseases are so prevalent in households today. Considering our current lifestyle, we can identify some key factors.

Our lifestyle has undergone significant changes. Many people now spend long hours sitting—either throughout the day or even at night. Some have extensive travel requirements, while others spend hours commuting, often exposed to pollution, which adversely affects health. For those who remain constantly busy in such conditions, it is only natural that health issues may arise as they age.

Our food habits also play a major role. The excessive use of chemical fertilizers to increase agricultural yield, adulteration in essential items like milk, paneer, ghee, oil, and pulses, and contamination of water due to urban waste and industrial discharge—all contribute to declining health. The water we use is often not fit for consumption without chemical treatment. Many of our senior companions may recall a time when one could drink water directly from riverbeds. Today, even medicines prescribed for treatment often come with significant side effects.

According to WHO data, India’s population aged 70 and above was around 6 crore in 2023 and is expected to rise to 16.79 crore by 2050. Among them, the population aged 80 and above is projected to increase from about 1.5 crore in 2023 to nearly 5.59 crore by 2050.

While life expectancy in India is undoubtedly increasing, how we remain healthy, happy, and free from disease in these added years depends largely on our lifestyle and dietary habits.

Regular yoga, exercise, and walking in fresh air should be part of daily life. Consuming food grown without chemicals, eating fresh fruits and vegetables, and maintaining a balanced diet can support physical health. At the same time, we must also take care of our mental well-being—stay cheerful, avoid unnecessary anger, cultivate positive thoughts, maintain good relationships, and enjoy light-hearted moments with friends.

Age is increasing with every passing moment—it is our responsibility to ensure that it remains healthy.

The Values (Sanskar) Gap: Who Is Responsible?

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Many parents complain that children no longer listen to them. Before blaming the younger generation, perhaps it is time to ask whether we have done enough to pass on the values we expect them to uphold.

Today, whenever we gather with friends, relatives, or acquaintances, one concern almost inevitably comes up: “Children no longer listen to us.” Many feel that the opinions of friends, teachers, or social media influencers carry more weight than those of parents and grandparents.

This is not merely a family issue. When we see growing indiscipline, insensitivity, selfishness, or a decline in ethical behaviour around us, we often remark, “Things are not what they used to be.” Such observations naturally lead to an important question: Are we, as elders and parents, partly responsible for this situation?

After all, every young person is shaped by a family environment. If values appear to be weakening, it is worth asking whether something was missing in the process of nurturing them.

Children learn far more from what they see than from what they are told. The home is their first school, and parents are their first teachers. If we ourselves do not practise honesty, patience, respect, discipline, and empathy, it becomes difficult to expect children to embrace these qualities.

One of the biggest shortcomings is the lack of role models. Children closely observe how adults behave. When they see us bending rules, speaking harshly, or acting inconsistently, they absorb those lessons more readily than any advice we offer.

Another challenge is the shortage of time. Modern life is demanding, and many parents struggle to spend meaningful time with their children. While material needs are often met, emotional connection and regular conversations may be neglected. Values are not transmitted through gifts or facilities; they grow through relationships and dialogue.

A third issue is our excessive focus on achievement. We work hard to secure the best education and career opportunities for our children. While these aspirations are understandable, character development sometimes takes a back seat. Good grades and successful careers can make life comfortable, but strong values make life meaningful. At this point, I am reminded of the opening line of a song associated with the Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS): ‘In this sacred age of building and progress, let us not forget the building of character.’

The culture of display and comparison amplified by social media also plays a role. Children are constantly exposed to messages that equate success with wealth, popularity, and visibility. If families also place disproportionate emphasis on these markers, qualities such as humility, service, compassion, and gratitude may gradually lose importance.

At the same time, it would be unfair to place the entire responsibility on parents and elders. Today’s children are influenced by peers, schools, digital media, entertainment platforms, and the broader social environment. The internet is often a more constant companion than family members. Values are therefore shaped by many forces, not just by the home.

What, then, is the solution?

The answer lies not in blame, but in example. Children learn values when they see them being practised. Spending time with them, listening patiently, sharing experiences, and living according to the principles we advocate are far more effective than lectures.

Values are not taught in a single lesson. They are nurtured over years through everyday actions, conversations, and choices.

Perhaps before criticising the younger generation, we should ask ourselves one simple question: Are we setting the example we wish our children to follow? An honest answer to that question may help us rebuild the very values we fear are disappearing.

Loneliness Among Seniors: A Silent Pandemic

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About two years ago, I wrote an article titled “Society Must Address the Loneliness of Seniors.” Today, I find myself returning to the same subject. The reason is a recent news report that deeply disturbed me. Loneliness among seniors has now emerged as a serious issue not only in India but across the world. Though largely invisible, its impact is no less severe than that of a pandemic.

India did not face this problem on such a scale in the past. One major reason was our long-standing tradition of joint families. Elders lived amidst family members and enjoyed companionship, care, and a sense of belonging. Over time, however, we became increasingly influenced by Western lifestyles. Family planning gained acceptance and slogans such as “We Two, Ours Two” gradually reshaped our social structure. Joint families slowly gave way to nuclear families.

As families became smaller, parents naturally focused on giving their children the best possible education. Once educated, these children had to move beyond their small towns and cities in search of better opportunities. Some went abroad, while others settled in India’s large metropolitan centres. Parents proudly spoke of their children working in America or holding prestigious positions in big cities. Yet this success carried an unintended consequence. As we ourselves grew older, many of us found that we had been left behind. Children could not return because suitable opportunities were unavailable, while parents often found it difficult to adjust to an unfamiliar environment elsewhere.

The situation becomes even more difficult when one loses a life partner. In old age, loneliness is no longer merely an emotion—it becomes a burden. At this stage of life, health concerns also increase, making emotional support all the more important.
According to the World Health Organization, the impact of loneliness on health can be as harmful as smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. This gives us an idea of how serious the issue is.

The consequences of loneliness are alarming. It increases the risk of depression, anxiety, and emotional stress. It is also linked with a higher likelihood of Alzheimer’s disease and dementia. Heart disease and other physical ailments are not far behind. The World Health Organization has reported that one in every six people globally experiences loneliness, and this number continues to rise. Clearly, loneliness deserves to be called a silent pandemic.

Let us now turn to the positive side and ask ourselves: how can we protect our seniors from loneliness? I have written on this subject many times before, yet it is important to repeat certain truths.

The encouraging fact is that combating loneliness among seniors neither requires expensive solutions nor complex interventions. What is needed most is love, respect, and a sense of belonging. Spend time talking to older people. Listen to their experiences, for they are repositories of wisdom and life lessons. Often, a few moments of genuine conversation can prove more effective than any medicine.

Technology, too, has helped bridge distances. Through WhatsApp, video calls, and other digital tools, seniors can remain connected with family and friends. Among older adults, WhatsApp has become particularly popular. Yet technology alone is not enough. Seniors must also feel motivated to remain socially engaged. When family members speak positively, express affection, and maintain regular contact, older people feel valued and connected.

Another important aspect is encouraging seniors to participate in social service and community activities. Social gatherings provide opportunities to build new friendships and remain active. Spending time with people of a similar age and sharing old memories often brings comfort and joy. Today, many residential societies have senior citizens’ groups. Yet, despite a large senior population, only about 20 to 25 percent actively participate in such groups.

Changing this situation is a collective responsibility. Society, families, and seniors themselves must work together to ensure that old age remains active, meaningful, and socially connected. After all, no one should have to spend the golden years of life in loneliness.

Let us pledge that no senior around us feels alone. Sometimes, a simple phone call, a few moments of conversation, or a gesture of affection can bring light back into someone’s life.

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Adapting Ourselves for Meaningful Golden Years

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Many seniors may remember a time when, after someone crossed the age of sixty, people would jokingly say, “He has become old and senile.” The implication was that his opinions no longer deserved serious attention because he belonged to another era.

Fortunately, times are changing. Today, sixty is no longer considered the end of an active life. People remain energetic, productive, and socially engaged well into their seventies and beyond. Yet many seniors eventually feel that younger family members do not value their views as much as they once did. Whether spoken openly or conveyed through behavior, this feeling can be difficult to ignore.

Instead of merely feeling hurt, it may be worthwhile to reflect on our own habits and see where positive changes can be made.

The first question we should ask ourselves is: Do we spend most of our time giving advice? Experience is valuable, but when every conversation turns into a lecture on what should or should not be done, younger people may begin to disengage.

Equally important is the manner in which we communicate. The same advice can be received very differently depending on whether it is delivered as an order, a criticism, or a gentle suggestion. Often, the tone matters more than the words themselves.

Another habit worth improving is our ability to listen. Many of us interrupt younger people before they have completed their thoughts. We assume our experience gives us the correct answer. However, interrupting sends a message that their opinions do not matter.

Listening patiently before responding demonstrates respect. Even if we disagree, allowing others to express themselves fully creates a healthier and more meaningful dialogue.

In family discussions, senior members often set the tone. Their body language, expressions, and reactions influence everyone around them. When elders listen attentively and respectfully, they encourage the same behavior in others.

Family conversations can sometimes become heated. During such moments, patience becomes one of the greatest strengths. Reacting in anger usually escalates conflict, while calm responses often help restore balance. Decisions made in anger are rarely the best ones; thoughtful decisions emerge from a calm mind.

Perhaps one of the most challenging habits to develop is the willingness to admit mistakes. Deep down, we may know we are wrong, yet we continue defending our position. This tendency is common among people of all ages, but it can create unnecessary tension.

Admitting a mistake is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, it reflects maturity and self-confidence. When a senior says, “Yes, I was wrong,” respect for that person often increases rather than decreases.

We should also make an effort to understand the younger generation. The world they live in is very different from the one we knew. Technology, careers, and lifestyles have changed dramatically. Instead of dismissing every new idea, we can try to understand it. Such openness helps bridge the gap between generations.

Ultimately, a fulfilling senior life depends not only on good health or financial security but also on strong and positive relationships. By practicing humility, patience, attentive listening, emotional control, and the courage to accept our mistakes, we can make our golden years truly rewarding.

Growing older is inevitable. Growing better with age is a choice—and one that can make all the difference.

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Be Happy With What You Have

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A few days ago, I came across a beautiful thought that left a deep impression on me. It said, “The person who learns to be happy with less never runs short of happiness.” Though simple, this message contains profound wisdom that can transform the way we look at life.

These days, many inspirational messages circulate on WhatsApp groups, especially those popular among senior citizens. Never Say Retired also regularly shares such thoughts through its groups and website. Among them, this particular message stood out because it touched upon a truth that many of us tend to overlook.

One of the biggest reasons for human unhappiness is comparison. Often, we are not unhappy because of what we lack, but because we see others possessing more. What we have may be sufficient for a comfortable life, yet the moment we compare ourselves with someone else, a feeling of inadequacy arises. This comparison gradually leads to dissatisfaction.

Modern society encourages comparison and display. Someone buys a new car, and we start wishing for a bigger one. Someone builds a larger house, and our own home suddenly feels inadequate. Someone’s children settle abroad, and we begin thinking ours should do the same. The cycle never ends because there will always be someone who appears more successful, wealthier, or more accomplished.

This does not mean we should stop being ambitious. Ambition is healthy and necessary. It motivates us to improve, grow, and remain active. However, there is a fine line between ambition and greed. Ambition inspires effort, while greed creates restlessness.

If we desire a better lifestyle, let us work hard for it. Let us explore new opportunities and improve ourselves. But at the same time, let us remain grateful for what we already possess. Focusing only on future achievements often prevents us from enjoying the blessings of the present.

For retirees and senior citizens, contentment becomes even more important. By this stage of life, we have already experienced many joys, overcome many challenges, and achieved much more than we sometimes acknowledge. If we continue dwelling on what we do not have, peace of mind will remain elusive. But if we look at our family, health, experience, friendships, and accomplishments, we will realize how richly blessed we truly are.

Contentment does not mean giving up on progress. It means valuing what we have while striving honestly for what we desire. It helps us develop a positive outlook toward life. A contented person learns to enjoy simple pleasures—a morning walk, meaningful conversations, family gatherings, good health, and moments of peace.

We must also remember that success achieved through dishonest means never brings lasting happiness. Wealth acquired through deceit may provide comfort, but not peace of mind. Ultimately, our actions return to us. Therefore, whatever we seek should be pursued through integrity and hard work.

Contentment is not something we acquire from the outside; it is a state of mind. A contented person can remain happy even with limited resources, while a dissatisfied person may find even great wealth insufficient.

Let us therefore cultivate the habit of contentment. Let us be grateful for what we have and work sincerely for what we aspire to achieve. When comparison gives way to gratitude, life becomes lighter, calmer, and far more fulfilling. That is perhaps the true secret of happiness.

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Getting Employed Post Retirement Need More Than Experience

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Recently, I was sitting with a few acquaintances when the conversation turned toward employment opportunities. One gentleman associated with a well-known NGO in the city mentioned that his organization needed an accountant. He requested everyone present to refer someone interested in taking up the position.

During the discussion, he pointed out an interesting challenge. Younger professionals often lose interest the moment they hear that the opportunity is in an NGO. Many feel that such organizations offer limited career growth and uncertain long-term prospects.

I casually suggested that they consider hiring a retired person. A retiree, I said, would likely bring experience, commitment, and perhaps even lower salary expectations.

His response made me think deeply. According to him, many organizations hesitate to hire retirees because some older professionals find it difficult to adjust to changing work cultures. Some expect the same authority and respect they enjoyed before retirement. Others struggle with flexibility or feel uncomfortable reporting to younger managers. Employers often fear that adapting such individuals to modern workplaces may become challenging.

His observation highlights an important reality. If we truly want retirees to remain economically active and socially engaged, we must not only create opportunities but also address the mindset and preparedness needed for re-employment.

The workplace today is changing rapidly. Technology is transforming industries. Digital systems have become essential. Work styles are evolving continuously. Experience remains valuable, but experience alone is no longer enough.

Retirees seeking employment after retirement must prepare themselves for a different environment. This is where reskilling and upskilling become critical. Reskilling means learning entirely new competencies. An accountant accustomed to traditional methods may need to learn digital accounting platforms. Upskilling means strengthening existing abilities to remain relevant in modern workplaces.

Fortunately, learning opportunities today are abundant. Online courses, digital training programs, and skill-development platforms make continuous learning accessible to everyone — regardless of age.

However, technical skills alone are not sufficient. Mental adaptability matters equally.

Those entering a second career must accept that roles may differ from their earlier positions. Compensation may be lower. Decision-making authority may be limited. Younger professionals may lead teams. Accepting these realities gracefully can significantly improve employability.

The second innings of life is not meant to replicate the first. It is an opportunity to reinvent oneself.

Retirees possess invaluable strengths — experience, discipline, maturity, patience, and wisdom. When these qualities combine with flexibility, lifelong learning, and openness to change, meaningful opportunities emerge.

The benefits of re-employment are not limited to financial needs, though financial independence certainly remains important. Continuing to work after retirement gives retirees an opportunity to use their time meaningfully. It reduces feelings of emptiness, loneliness, and lack of purpose that sometimes emerge after leaving active professional life. A workplace also provides social interaction and companionship, helping individuals remain socially connected. More importantly, retirees continue to feel that their experience, knowledge, and abilities still matter.

This sense of being needed and valued strengthens self-confidence and preserves a feeling of purpose. Active and engaged seniors are often viewed differently even within their own families, where they continue to enjoy respect and a sense of relevance. Those who remain mentally and socially engaged frequently lead happier, more energetic, and positive lives. Work after retirement is therefore not merely about earning money; it can also become a powerful source of dignity, purpose, and emotional well-being.

Society must also change its mindset. Seniors do not seek sympathy. They seek opportunity. Retirement does not mean work has ended. It simply means preparing differently for the next chapter of life. – Never Say Retired.

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Spirituality and the Art of Aging Gracefully

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The sunset years of life are not merely about growing older; they are a phase of reflection, wisdom, and inner awakening. At this stage, spirituality often emerges as a powerful force that brings peace, balance, and renewed meaning to life. Spirituality is not limited to rituals or visiting places of worship. It is a positive way of looking at life that strengthens a person from within and helps one age gracefully.

After retirement, many individuals experience a sudden slowing down of life. For decades, they remain deeply involved in careers, responsibilities, and social roles. Once that phase ends, some begin to feel a loss of identity or purpose. It is here that spirituality provides a broader understanding of life. It reminds individuals that life is not defined only by professional success or material achievements, but also by inner growth, wisdom, relationships, and contribution to society.

One of the greatest gifts of spirituality is mental peace. Advancing age naturally brings concerns related to health, loneliness, uncertainty, and even mortality. Spiritual thinking helps individuals accept these realities with calmness and dignity. Practices such as prayer, meditation, chanting, yoga, and mindful reflection relax the mind and reduce stress. Medical experts today also acknowledge that meditation and breathing exercises can lower blood pressure, improve sleep, and reduce the risk of stress-related illnesses.

We often witness this transformation around us. A person who becomes spiritually inclined usually develops greater patience, compassion, and emotional stability. Such individuals react less to minor irritations and become more accepting of situations and people. Family members, including spouses, can clearly notice the positive change in their behavior and outlook. In some cases, spirituality has been part of a person’s life for years, making these qualities appear natural and effortless.

Spirituality also strengthens social connections. Participation in satsangs, meditation groups, bhajan gatherings, or community service activities helps seniors overcome loneliness and isolation. These gatherings create a sense of belonging and emotional support. One can easily observe this while watching spiritual discourses on television, where senior citizens often form the majority of the audience. Their calm faces and peaceful expressions reveal the quiet joy they derive from such experiences.

Recently, I had the privilege of interacting with a 102-year-old lady. What struck me most was the enthusiasm with which she participated in a bhajan session. Her family shared that she continues her morning and evening prayers regularly without fail. Her daughter firmly believed that this spiritual discipline has kept her mentally alert and emotionally positive even at such an advanced age. This example beautifully illustrates how spirituality can contribute not only to emotional well-being but also to cognitive health.

Another noticeable effect of spirituality is its influence on lifestyle. Spiritually inclined individuals often adopt healthier habits naturally. They tend to eat mindfully, avoid harmful addictions, and prefer a simple and balanced lifestyle. Fruits, vegetables, millets, and dry fruits become more important than indulgent eating. With age comes the realization that good health is essential for maintaining independence and dignity. Seniors understand that staying healthy is the key to enjoying their golden years without becoming dependent on others.

Perhaps the most valuable lesson spirituality teaches is acceptance. It helps people let go of regrets, resentments, and unfulfilled desires. Many spiritual traditions emphasize living in the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Learning to forgive also releases emotional burdens and brings immense inner relief.

In reality, spirituality is one of the greatest companions during the later years of life. It not only helps people live longer but also enables them to live with greater peace, purpose, and happiness. The true beauty of aging lies not merely in adding years to life, but in adding serenity and meaning to those years. Aging must not be seen as a process of decline, but as a journey toward deeper wisdom, peace, and fulfilment.

Living Positively in the Evening of Life

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Early in the morning, a message flashes on the mobile phone — “Your classmate has passed away.” For a few moments, the mind goes blank. He was not just a classmate; he was someone with whom I spent five years in the engineering hostel. Laughter, struggles, dreams, examinations — a significant part of life was shared with him.

This was not the first such message. Just two months ago, I received news of another old friend’s demise. And at this stage of life, one slowly realizes that such messages will continue to come more frequently.

Today, in the age of WhatsApp, news reaches us instantly. There was a time when information about someone’s passing arrived days later. Sometimes through a telegram, sometimes through a “lightning call,” and often through a simple postcard carrying sad news. The younger generation today may not even know what telegrams or lightning calls were. Times have changed, communication has changed, but the reality of death has not.

Those of us who have crossed the age of 75 are, in a way, living a “bonus life.” Due to medical advancements and improved lifestyles, life expectancy has increased, and many people now reach this age. Yet, with advancing age comes a quiet fear.

A slight pain in the chest immediately raises anxiety — “Could this be a heart attack?”

If we feel tired while walking or exercising, we begin to wonder if the body is failing.

And when sleep breaks in the middle of the night, the mind starts worrying — “What will happen after I am gone?”

Such thoughts gradually affect both our peace of mind and our health.

But should this phase of life be spent in fear and worry? I believe the answer is no. This is the time to live with greater wisdom, balance, and positivity.

The first priority must be health. Yoga, breathing exercises, light workouts, and regular walking — whatever is possible should be continued consistently. Growing older does not mean becoming inactive. The more active the body remains, the more stable and optimistic the mind stays.

The second important aspect is staying connected with family. No matter how much wealth or success one may have earned in life, in the final years what matters most is companionship and emotional support. And true support usually comes from family.

It is also a harsh reality that one life partner will inevitably leave before the other. Nature has perhaps designed life in such a way that both do not depart together. Therefore, emotional preparedness also becomes important.

Another matter that deserves timely attention is the proper planning of one’s assets and responsibilities. Preparing a will, organizing important documents, or distributing part of one’s wealth during one’s lifetime can bring immense mental peace.

At the same time, balance is necessary. One should not become so emotional that everything is handed over to others while keeping nothing for oneself. We do not know how many more years God has granted us or what financial needs may arise in the future. Those we depend upon today may themselves face difficulties tomorrow.

Wisdom lies in maintaining love, security, and self-respect together.

Ultimately, death is not a tragedy but an eternal law of nature. Whoever comes into this world must leave one day. What remains in our hands is whether we spend our remaining years in fear or live them smiling, active, and inspiring others.

If every morning we wake up thinking, “This day too is a gift from God,” then perhaps this “bonus phase” of life can become the most beautiful phase of all.

The Art of Living 100+ Years

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Articles were being posted in Hindi earlier. Now, posting the articles in English.
Hindi articles are published in a number of dailies every week.
All articles in Hindi and English are available on www.neversayretired.in

Over the past two years, I have written more than 100 articles focused on senior citizens—their lives, experiences, and possibilities. The Never Say Retired mission is dedicated to empowering seniors to remain active, engaged, and valuable contributors to society.

In several of my earlier articles, I explored the idea that living beyond 100 years is not unattainable if one follows a disciplined and balanced lifestyle. Our scriptures too bless us with “Shatayu Bhava”—a wish for a long, healthy, and meaningful life.

Recently, I had the privilege of meeting someone who brought these ideas to life—a 102-year-old lady, Mrs. Ratna Mahajan. Meeting her was not just inspiring; it felt like witnessing a living example of everything I had been writing about.

As I sat in her drawing room speaking with her 73-year-old daughter, Kusum ji, I saw Mataji slowly walking towards us with the support of a walker. Her face radiated a remarkable glow and confidence. When I touched her feet, she blessed me with a warm smile. I learned that she started using a walker only two years ago; before that, she managed with a walking stick.

What amazed me most was her sharp memory and eagerness to converse. She vividly recalled past events with clarity and confidence.

She migrated from Lahore during the Partition while she was pregnant—a deeply emotional memory that still touched her heart. Her husband passed away in 2005.

When I asked her about the secret of her health, her answer was simple yet powerful. She spoke about her traditional diet—two large glasses of milk with cream daily, sometimes even fresh milk directly from the cow. She enjoyed desi ghee and butter in abundance. Even today, after her prayers, she consumes almonds, walnuts, fox nuts (makhana), and roasted gram. Due to chewing difficulties, she now prefers powdered forms of some foods. One key principle she emphasized was—never overeating. She enjoys simple foods like poha, chilla, and idli-vada, and occasionally relishes parathas.

Surprisingly, she is not on any regular medication today. Earlier, she took medicines for diabetes and high blood pressure, but now everything is under control.

Her daughter shares that apart from assistance in bathing and dressing, she remains largely independent.

Her daily routine includes reciting the Gita, Hanuman Chalisa, Ganesh prayers, and Ganga Aarti. She occasionally visits the temple and interacts warmly with old acquaintances—remarkably, she remembers everyone’s names.

She watches news regularly and takes interest in current affairs. She is an admirer of Prime Minister Narendra Modi and even composed a cheerful jingle during elections:

The one who ensures Modi’s victory shall taste sweet fruits.

When asked for a message for today’s youth, she said simply:

Speak the truth, serve and respect your parents, and stay away from lust, anger, attachment, greed, and ego.

Her life is a lesson not only for seniors but for all generations. If we aspire for a long life, we must embrace discipline, mindful eating, and a positive outlook—just like her.

A devotional song with her available on Never Say Retired YouTube channel. The link is
https://youtu.be/oAW432_e364?si=QnPlEQMF1zLORImw